I WAS ZONED

There have always been situations whereby guys have feelings for a certain girl or a girl does like a guy too much to be ‘just friends’ with him. Though it happens mostly with guys and we most times chicken out or even if we finally speak up it would be either too late or we would be turned down and equally confined in a safe spot called ‘Friend Zone’. That means we have been officially zoned, being friend zoned is even said to be fair compared to being Brother Zoned; now Brother Zoning is even tougher because she just told you ‘You are like a brother to me’ and that is very difficult to handle for some guys because good friends could end up being lovers but brother and sister? You don’t want to commit incest do you?

Just recently I decided to go on an adventure called ‘Knowing your zone’ and this adventure goes thus; I pick a random girl on my contact and just chat with her and then lead the conversation into asking her out. At first she would think I am joking which I must say here if she agrees to go out with me I would definitely not be joking, however most girls that I choose are girls that I actually have feelings for naturally not just anyone. (Disclaimer: If I ask you out even jokingly that means I have an atom of feelings towards you and it aint platonic). So I picked the contact of this girl and I started chatting with her. The last time I did was maybe in person and that would be in school, even the last time I did see her she got something out of me by all means (I mean money so don’t get your dirty mind elsewhere c’mon!). this girl is quite beautiful, and also has good features I must say. She has most of the things I admire in a woman/girl/lady and sincerely if we weren’t friends I would have talked to her at some point but our friendship hindered that most times and I being a person that likes keeping things the way they are I never crossed that invisible boundary. Maybe because of the boredom of ASUU I decided to know what she thought of me.

So I started chatting with her the first day and she warmed up to me but interestingly the display picture I used was that of my friend and she was all chatty and friendly, she gave me her house address and we fixed a date even if she told me to come to her house which I would not go (You never can tell what would be awaiting me). The next day however, I changed my dp and she recognized me, that’s a bummer. We continued chatting and she just kept saying ‘you are my friend’ and in my mind I was like ‘forget friends let’s just get it on already’ but not too fast she seemed to say and that just limited things the more. She eventually broke the silence and I lost hope although I know that if I push harder I might get something out of it irrespective of our relationship afterwards but I decided to let it slide because most times what we wished we had is never what we would have gotten if we had it, I hope that made sense.

This is just an experience I wanted to share and I hope all of you being zoned and you the zones know that your decisions affect lives and you should not just leave it at ‘we are friends’ or ‘it can’t be possible’ to ‘let me explain it to you’ or better still give tangible reasons. In fact you can always say you are in a relationship even if you are not in one because friend zoning is actually something that most people suffer from. Although I had fun I mean the way she changed from come to my house to im busy is actually interesting. I must say I had fun and if I had to do it some other time I would prefer to do it with someone more assuring.